For a long time, I was under the impression that having a long history with a person makes a good reason to continue the relationship. So, I continued sailing in this direction and kept a particular friendship alive which I should have abandoned earlier.
I bet that you all can relate to the friendship that transcends the wasteland of high school melodrama and college shenanigans which we consumed like any other bad Netflix series, right?
My friend circle till my high school was just like any other group of guys. We would hang out watching movies, doing sleepovers, eating street food, habitually goofing around on bikes for no reason. We were kind of any common characters of mainstream Bollywood movie- There was the guy who just loved eating out, the guy who made terrible jokes, the guy who was extremely introvert, the guy who was fixated on women, the guy who always made excuse not to show up and there was me, who had no other friends.
We have had lows and highs, but after the adulthood happened, we just encountered more lows in life.
Everybody else had a habit of complaining but not taking any action. For instance, my friend Garry who just complained about his boss and work did not do anything to change his life.
Then there was Ayush, another friend, who wanted to start his own business but was reluctant to make any effort for it. Unsurprisingly, I became just like them and did not think about my own personal growth.
Fast-Forward One Year
I shifted to a different state (or province) for my higher studies and observe life from a different perspective. I found myself surrounded with people not only who were just the same as my previous friends but also those who were empowering and pushed me out of my comfort zone and bring out the best version of myself.
The reason you can be productive is by differentiating these positive people from the rest of the lot and supporting them the way you want to be supported.
Thus, it is important to be selective and choose people you wish to be surrounded by. Here are five kinds of people who can exert a positive influence on you and help in propelling you forward.
Surround Yourself With The Dreamers
These people work according to their plans and keep their big picture in mind. They are productive by nature and are always empowering you to choose the right path, work hard and move ahead with passion.
The Problem Solvers
To err is human. We are not perfect individuals nor a programming bot. There are times when you will get into trouble or problem irrespective of who or what you are.
Cribbing about things will not work out, problem solvers focus on these aspects and help you figure out a way to fix the problem.
Find the company of these people who embrace you to work on the solution and not the problem.
The Authentic Ones
Eradicating toxic people from your circle is different from eradicating honest people. I know it is evident that you don’t want negative people in your life, but you don’t want to have “YES-PEOPLE” in your life too.
To have a balanced view and be aware of the blind spots about yourself, you need authentic people who can provide you with honest opinions. They will help you better yourself, rectify your flaws and help you heal your weak spots.
Happy, Upbeat and Positive
It is a fact that we all are made up of vibrational energy and this energy can be passed on to others. When you surround yourself with positive vibrations, your energy becomes full of light.
You would feel happy and upbeat in the same way as these people are. Your life becomes meaningful and peaceful. You will create deeper happiness and better health for yourself.
En route the journey of success, you might encounter barriers and challenges that you would not be able to cope with.
Here you would need motivating and successful mentors who have been in your position and know the exact way to go through the forest of problems. These types of people are more than happy to help and are always there to help you excel in your desired path.
The world influences us more than we realize (and more than we’d like to believe). You cannot change the people around you, but you can definitely choose the ones you feel to be close to and influence your life in a meaningful way.
Surround yourself with people you want to be like and those who have qualities you want in yourself. Spend time with people you laugh with and when in their company, you feel like a good person. Make your life the best it can be, and rid of those who bring you down.
Do you also believe that you are who you surround yourself with? Let me know what you think about it in the comments below.
Harminder Singh, a professional procrastinator who has fallen in love with words and poetry. He is a self-diagnosed bibliophile and cinephile sapiosexual who loves art in any form. His obsession for art quenches his thirst to travel (even if it’s from his bed to the couch). His goals are to fill his bio with titles that don’t fit the 150 characters’ limit.