Last night I was scrolling down my Facebook news feed where I come across a quote “You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take.” Enlightening!
Though it’s difficult to find the author of the quote, a search on Google will tell you that it’s either by Wayne Gretzky or Michael Scott. However, it doesn’t matter. The true wisdom is not in debating the authenticity of the quote, but in learning from the words and modeling them in our own life.
It’s been over five years that I’ve been writing on self-improvement and what I learned is that opportunities are always around us, but to recognize and grab them is an act of courage. People fail in life not because they don’t have opportunities, but because they are limited by their fears.
What if I fail? What if people call me dumb? What if I lose everything? What if my idea is rejected? All these ifs limit a person’s will power and capabilities to live the life he deserves. And hence every one of us misses 100% of the shots we don’t take.
How opportunities are always surrounding us?
To explain it, I will take the example of the famous Greek scholar Archimedes. Though millions of people take bath every day, no one figured out the water level in the bathtub arising.
It’s Archimedes who recognized the opportunity around himself and leaped out of the bathtub, running and shouting “Eureka! Eureka! Eureka!” naked on the streets of Syracuse.
Or we can simply ponder upon the words by Bernard Baruch, an American Financier, who ones remarked “Millions saw the apple fall, but Newton asked why?”
The “Why” of Newton was a kind of shot he took. And the words “You miss 100% of chance you don’t take” are apt for the contemporaries of Newton.
Fear of Rejection
Fear of rejection is something our parents have developed in us. I don’t mean to reprimand them. But you see, in our childhood, we easily got whatever we asked from our parents.
However, the reality of life is different. In the real world, outside our house, we do not always get what we desire. We’ve to work for it. And more often, we have our dreams come true after umpteenth unsuccessful attempts.
If in our childhood, we had learned the habit of facing rejections our life would be entirely different. We would take more chances, work even harder and face fewer disappointments after facing rejections.
Business dealings, job interviews, talking to a stranger, asking for help and dating someone are some of the examples where most people feel insecure.
How not to miss 100% of chance you don’t take
Life could be easier if we keep our assumptions side. It’s not the occasions that are making us uncomfortable but the false thoughts that we’ve made about them.
It’s not wise to think what others are thinking about you. The more you think what others will think most certainly you will quit before beginning your journey.
You always have a chance to compliment someone, to ask for the help, to take a leap of faith, to follow your passion, to listen to your heart but you will miss 100% of chance you don’t take.
Let the fear of rejection does not stop you from living the life you deserve. Like every behavioral characteristic, you can overcome the fear of rejection.
The best to develop this attitude is by facing it more often. Follow simple advice: Give more job interviews, speak more, meet more strangers and do more of what you fear the most.
Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you react to it
As you start doing more what you fear, you’ll get comfortable with your fears. In the beginning, your assumptions may take control of you, but remember what Charles Swindoll once said: “Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you react to it.”
Before reacting to any situation, ask yourself: What’s the reality? Am I overreacting? Am I in control of my emotions?
Self-questioning is the best way to overcome your fantasies.
It’s simple that if you have an opportunity and you’re not grabbing it then you are not only missing your good luck but also your chance to experience something new. Many businesses fail and people miss life-changing opportunities because of their false assumptions.
It’s true that people good in wealth have more opportunities and resources as compared to the people having an average income. But you can always do what you can, with what you have, where you are.
In the end, I encourage you to accept rejection as a tool of growth, keep looking for the opportunities around yourself, observe how your reactions, try something new and take more shots, for you miss 100% of the shots you don’t take.
Have you missed any opportunity in life? Do you regret? How much you agree that opportunities are always around us? Let me know your views in the comments below.
Nakul Grover, author of Superhuman In You and the one who runs this blog. He has been writing on self-improvement since 2014. Featured on various websites, his works have helped thousands of people to live an extraordinary life. He loves spending his leisure hours in reading books and learning new skills.